From the moment I saw the two lines appear, I thought I knew what I was getting myself into. I had my first child not that long ago. My son Max will be 21 months old by the time his sister is born. I remember so much of my first pregnancy so vividly and I felt prepared. Bring on those kicks and rolls, the growing and increasingly uncomfortable belly, and everything else.
Turns out, I wasn’t actually prepared. This pregnancy was completely different from my last. A lot of that probably had to do with chasing a toddler around all the time.
More surprisingly, I became highly emotional over no longer having one child. I never for a second regretted the decision my husband and I made to welcome a second child into the world, but I was saddened about the end of our life as it had been for a very blissful year with our boy. And I was sad about how my son would feel about a new crying, pooping thing in the house taking time and attention away from his mother.
It’s not by too much, but my son is more of a mama’s boy. I’m his comfort. He brings me his books and loves to cuddle on my lap. At night, when I’m rocking him to sleep, we look out his bedroom window at the night sky and point out stars and airplanes.
His world is about to change and I hope he’s resilient and takes it in stride and loves his baby sister. I hope he appreciates her from the moment he lays his eyes on her. I hope that despite all the undivided attention I’ll need to give his sister, especially in the beginning, that he still loves me for it and doesn’t feel abandoned.
Throughout these past 8 months, my mind has been consumed with ways to make my son connected to the idea of a baby sister coming and, frankly, also with connecting myself to a new child in my belly when I sometimes can’t think beyond caring for and loving on my boy. So here is how I’ve managed to have it all come together the best way I can:
With time and practice, I delight in my daughter in a new way and I’m helping my son to do the same. If you have any stories of your own or suggestions, we’d love to hear from you in the comments below!